18 02 2014

Lolly sits on the pillow on the hospital bed. Every so often she whispers something to GM, but mostly she draws in her new note pad with her new felt tips. These were bought in a hurry, as a mix up with childcare meant that Lolly had to come to the hospice with GM to see Grandma. There was meeting scheduled with the discharge nurse and Lolly sits quietly throughout the whole 45 minutes.  GM is full of praise as they leave, even when Lolly thunders down the corridor, drawing long glances from the numerous staff.

Later as LML recovers from a hard days playing by focusing on the lap top Lolly builds a bed and lays on the floor. “Me poorly G’anma” she states. GM smiles at her daughter and leans forward to stroke her face. Lolly captures GM’s hand and kisses it passionately before letting it go and picking up a piece of ribbon. “My cannula” she announces and lays there unmoving. GM points out that grandma was actually up and awake today. Lolly shakes her head, “G’anma poorly!” she insists and continues. GM nods, patting her hand.

GM sighs as she draws away, a wave of sadness washing over her. Her strong, robust, fiercely independent mum has become a forgetful elderly woman, struggling with the final stages of COPD. She is naturally frightened and deeply anxious as the hospice assessment has confirmed that she needs full time nursing care .. they will only discharge her to a nursing home.



3 responses

19 02 2014

I am sorry that you are having to go through such a horrible time. It sounds to me as if Lolly is understanding the seriousness of it all and learning a lot about life and love right now. I am thinking of you.

19 02 2014

Thanks Izzwizz, I was really impressed with how she managed herself. She was really lovely with her grandma which was warming.

2 03 2014

I hope you have a lot of he; with finding a good nursing home. There are some very good guidelines for questions to ask. It really helps to know what your mother’s priorities are when you go to check out these places.

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